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It is easy to love without commitment. People do it all the time. Easy to love, to give oneself for a while. But commitment implies bonding in such a way that one promises to keep fires of love burning indefinitely.

It also means shutting one’s heart to the possibility of loving another who might even be more attractive, even more lovable. Not easy. This is why solid commitments are not all as common as we are led to believe.

In fact, more often than not, I think that the commitment two lovers make are not equal. What I mean is that the commitment of one might be a whole lot less that the partner’s. We see it all the time. One loves more than the other. It is false to believe that two lovers love each other to the same degree.

We have often seen lopsided love relationships where one partner is giving so much more to the relationship than the other. But writers and poets seem always indicate that love isn’t just two-way street, but an equal two-way street. That hardly ever happens. It is impossible to determine exactly how much a man loves a woman or much a woman cares for a man.

Love cannot be measured and that can be a huge problem. You can love someone and tell her/him “I love you” and you’re telling the truth. But how much do you love her/him? Enough to let him to court you/Enough to let yourself to court her? Enough to marry her/him? Enough to die for her/him?
The greatest test of true love is commitment. And the greatest indicator of deep love is deep commitment. There can be no doubting this.

I heard people say all the right words, make all the right moves and pledge of undying love, only to walk away weeks, months, or years away later. Were they in love? Sure they were. But not enough to allow them to hold strong in their love. Not enough to keep a commitment regardless of the pain.

A lover gets a sinking feeling when there is a sense of that one is more committed than the other. When one is giving a lot more than the one is receiving. When one’s love is lot more solid than the creaky love of the partner. When a couple believe strongly that their commitment to each other is rock solid, there is a deep sense of security, a feeling that it’s ok to give all because the gift of yourself is safe in the hands of the beloved.

If, however, there is a doubt or worse, the conviction that one is engaged in one-way giving, in a one-way commitment that is lopsided, then there is a tendency to pull back and not to give as much. And when that happens, love begins to fade.

But, put them all together
And they could not stand in lieu,
Of the greatest gift of all
The gift of knowing you.

When your times are filled with troubles
Sadness, grief, or even doubt,
When all those things you planned on
Just aren’t turning out.

Just turn and look behind you
From the place at which you stand,
And look for me through the shadows
And reach out for my hand.

I will lift from you your burden
And cry for you your tears,
Bear the pain of all your sorrows
Though it may be for a thousand years.

Listen to
the sound of sad teardrops

Realize
the rain of sadness
weeping with
Love’s many heartaches

Feel the tide
of wanting a true love

The ocean is full and wide
Treasures everywhere
Lakes and seas will join together as one

Accept Love’s
truest form,
Pure since Time’s first beginning

Renew Life’s
promises,
Unbroken until Time’s death

Remember
Childhood vows
forever sealed yesterday

Cherished words
Never will fade
Impressions will always stay

Motivate
the search for tomorrows
streaming through
Life’s different waters

Listen to
the sound of new heartbeats

Visualize
the cries of laughter
smiling with
Love’s different bondings

Feel the joy
of living a romance

The world is full and wide
Treasures everywhere
Hope and faith will join together as one

Remember
Childhood vows
forever sealed yesterday

Or will you forget
and dwell in the lost instead,
mourning for your friend’s farewell?

A portrait of my existence
lies deep within your heart,
cherishing the memories we once shared.

Or will you decide
nothing is worth keeping,
losing the special dream you once held?

Love will never die.
Love is deep inside.
Friendships are forever.
Remember my love for you.

I am always there,
watching over you.
To give inspiration
and strength when you may fail
in a world of fears.

Will you continue to dream
and breathe the wonders of life,
striving to be who you want to be?

Or will you succumb
to the defeats in life,
failing to never overcome?
Dreams will never die.
Strength is deep inside.
Friendships are forever.
Remember my faith in you.

Is it hard when you don’t have
Someone to lean upon?
When you need a friend to care,
but they, your friends, have gone?

What if you were split
Up from your best friend?
Do you think you’d care
If your friendship ends?

Would you slowly drift apart,
Go in separate ways?
Or would you both grow closer
Grow closer day by day?

What if your friends started
Saying things behind your back?
Would you stand and face them,
Or would your courage lack?

Could it be the trees?
Reaching for the sky?
Or could it be the children,
Walking home, who pass me by?

Perhaps, I miss the birds,
Chirping sweetly above my head?
All I feel is restlessness
A part of me is dead.

I know now what it is.
Now I realize what is wrong.
It’s the feeling, they call solitude,
All my friends are gone.

Of course I know,
That as we grow,
We have to make our way,
We all must plot a different course,
To go by everyday.

I always thought my friendships,
Would be round,
Just like the moon
But you see,
I am not ready,
For it all to end so soon.

I miss their happy laughter,
Floating on the wind.
I miss the many secrets,
That circulates within.